Adventures of a Single Girl: Play it Again Sam ~ By Gotham Girl

Photography by Michelle

In the last few months I have either run into or heard from people who over the years I had managed to lose touch with. It’s like the real-life ghosts of Christmas past! 

Between college and grad school, moving from job to job and even city to city, it is hard to keep in touch with everyone. However there are always a handful of people that you genuinely feel bad for losing contact with. 

For the most part, these random encounters have been a good thing (minus one moron guy from my past who honestly I wasn’t even that crazy about.) 

Over the holidays, I randomly got an e-mail from a guy I used to know prior to moving back to NY nearly eight years ago. We both moved around at the same time and for one reason or another, we lost touch. 

Over the years I have thought about what he was doing and where he was-- was he married, did he have kids, etc. He, like me, is not a big Facebook person (at one point he wasn’t even on the site anymore), so Zuckerberg’s monster was of no use! 

As it turns out, he is now living in NYC! We initially met through mutual friends, at a point when we were both licking our wounds after rather messy and upsetting break-ups. We were just friends, although there was definitely flirtation (and possibly a bit of kissing) between us. 

I always felt bad that we lost touch and often wondered if the timing weren’t different what might have been. So it is rather interesting that he has randomly popped back up in my life! 

There are so many movies about the one that got away, but then you get a second chance, although I must say I have never seen it happen in real life. The only romantic second chances I have ever witnessed are the relationships that were bad the first time around! 

You know that friend who dates some guy who is a real ass? They break up and then a year later they randomly run into each and decide to give it another go. After a few weeks or months of couple's bliss, they devolve back into old behaviors with all the crying and drama they dealt with the first time around. The pattern is often repeated over and over ad nauseum! 

I sometimes think romantic movies have completely ruined us. Life just never lives up to the fantasy on film. Do the movie people do this just to torture us? Do they write this stuff because they have seen these fairy tale romances in real life? 

But who knows; maybe this cynical chick will get proven wrong! Regardless, it makes for a rather interesting start to the New Year.