Lonely but Never Alone in NYC – New York Minute Magazine
To Top

Lonely but Never Alone in NYC

Hey badass! Want to stay in the loop? Sign up for free weekly updates
Post saved!

Is it just me or does anyone else wonder how loneliness can possibly exist in a city that is buzzing with people 24/7? 

How can people literally live on top of each other in apartment block after apartment block yet feel so lonely? 

I asked myself this question as I sat staring through the window, admiring the Empire State Building one night. 

My roommate was out of town and I was home alone on a Saturday evening. The plans I’d made to meet friends had been cancelled and even though I’ve met so many people, I felt like I was alone in this big city.
Tears came to my eyes; I wondered whether I’d just swapped the lonely city of London for the lonely city of New York. 

But then the blurry picture of the tall buildings outside pierced through my tears and I took a deep breath. I was in the city that doesn’t sleep; there were bound to be people milling around in the streets and I was sure to find them if I went looking.
I decided to stroll up to Times Square. As I joined the tourist hustle, dipping in and out of shops, looking up at the bright flashing lights and dodging the cartoon characters prancing around the sidewalk (surely it was past their bedtime), I was on my own but certainly didn’t feel alone. 

I was out for a few hours and felt much better when I returned home. I’d spent my evening with strangers who didn’t even realize they were spending it with me.
I was back and the feeling of loneliness was nowhere to be found. I wondered where it had disappeared to, considering I hadn’t actually spoken to anyone and I hadn’t made any new friends. I heard a small voice speak to me from inside. The voice told me that I hadn’t been alone at all. I had always had me.
While I’d been focusing on the lack of external companionship, I’d been neglecting the one person I did have: me. No wonder she’d ended up in tears, feeling so bad, rejected and lonely. 

Imagine what it would feel like seeing someone crying about being alone and having no one, when you’re sitting right there beside them. I don’t know about you, but I’d certainly feel quite bad and think, “Aren’t I good enough?”
Now imagine that this same person stops crying, looks at you and says, “Get your coat on. You and I are going for a walk!” Wouldn’t that make you feel so much better? Wouldn’t that put a huge smile on your face? As soon as I’d decided to pick myself up and do something on my own, I was no longer alone.
There’s a time for everything and sometimes we need to be around people, and socialize and connect. Other times, we just need to spend time with ourselves. We need to be happy and excited about being who we are and enjoy that time. 

If we find ourselves feeling lonely at any point, even in the buzz of a highly-populated city, we should consider whether we’ve just been given an opportunity to show ourselves some tender loving care and spend time with us. 

Title Image Source

Sign Up For Our Newsletter

(Visited 15 times, 1 visits today)



  1. Mamie

    May 27, 2015 at 1:05 pm

    Аn interesting discussіon is worth comment.
    I dߋ think that you ought to publish more on this topic, it may not be a taboo
    subject but typіcally folks don’t speak about these topics.
    Ƭo the next! Ҡіnd regards!!

    Alѕo visit my ƅlog … swisschamp victorinox (Mamie)

  2. Heart Disease

    May 27, 2015 at 3:30 am

    Enjoyed every bit of your blog post.Really looking forward to read more. Really Cool.

  3. seo plugin

    May 25, 2015 at 6:47 am

    Hello Web Admin, I noticed that your On-Page SEO is is missing a few factors, for one you do not use all three H tags in your post, also I notice that you are not using bold or italics properly in your SEO optimization. On-Page SEO means more now than ever since the new Google update: Panda. No longer are backlinks and simply pinging or sending out a RSS feed the key to getting Google PageRank or Alexa Rankings, You now NEED On-Page SEO. So what is good On-Page SEO?First your keyword must appear in the title.Then it must appear in the URL.You have to optimize your keyword and make sure that it has a nice keyword density of 3-5% in your article with relevant LSI (Latent Semantic Indexing). Then you should spread all H1,H2,H3 tags in your article.Your Keyword should appear in your first paragraph and in the last sentence of the page. You should have relevant usage of Bold and italics of your keyword.There should be one internal link to a page on your blog and you should have one image with an alt tag that has your keyword….wait there’s even more Now what if i told you there was a simple WordPress plugin that does all the On-Page SEO, and automatically for you? That’s right AUTOMATICALLY, just watch this 4minute video for more information at. Seo Plugin

  4. fiverr.com/eebest8

    May 7, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Im thankful for the blog article. Keep writing.

  5. Thank you for the good writeup. It in fact was
    a amusement account it. Look advanced to far added agreeable from you!

    However, how can we communicate?

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

More in Be Fun

  • Make-Ahead Thanksgiving Recipes

    Making food in advance is awesome, as long as you’re making something that can be easily reheated – or better yet,...

    Josh GuirguisNovember 21, 2017
  • Tender Pancetta Meatballs

    Ever try a meatball so tender it made you stop just to take in the flavor? For me, this happened when...

    Josh GuirguisNovember 10, 2017
  • Apps for Women by Women

    Women in the tech world are doing some pretty amazing things. From apps that can help you delay a text to...

    Catherine HorneOctober 31, 2017
  • Dating Apps by Women for Women

    There seems to be a common problem everyone has when using dating apps like Tinder; often, people are just looking for...

    Catherine HorneOctober 24, 2017
  • Fresh, Local Nature at the Taroko National Park in Taiwan

    One might not immediately think of Taiwan, a small island in the Pacific, as a site of massive, awe-inspiring forms of...

    Monica GuOctober 20, 2017
  • Affordable and Fun Halloween Costume Tips

    With Halloween around the corner, you probably – and rightfully – don’t want to spend $50 or more on today’s overpriced...

    Diba BijariOctober 19, 2017
  • Spooky and Stylish Fall Decor

    October – being the spookiest month – is also the best time to get crafty with some eye-catching fall home decor!...

    Diba BijariOctober 12, 2017
  • New Releases: Erase My Head

    In October, my hunger for horror movies elevates itself, like a vampire that smells blood or a werewolf under a full...

    Nadeer FaragallaOctober 6, 2017
  • Lemon and Garlic Shrimp Scampi

    This week at NYMM we’re eating some classic shrimp scampi. For such a classic dish, it’s surprisingly easy to make. You...

    Josh GuirguisOctober 6, 2017
  • New Scarf Techniques for Fall Fun

    As our favorite, chillier seasons approach, let’s go through some scarf knotting and styling techniques that are as easy as they...

    Diba BijariOctober 5, 2017
  • Fashion-Forward Apps of the Week

    It can be hard to manage your closet and the many different items of clothing you have lying around, especially with...

    Catherine HorneOctober 3, 2017
  • Vegetarian Tacos with Avocado Cream

    This week at NYMM we’re changing up our tacos. We’re ditching meat and rice, but keeping it meaty and starchy with...

    Josh GuirguisSeptember 29, 2017
  • Smoothies for the Fall Season

    A smoothie can be great for a morning pick-me-up, after a workout, or just in general. As fall approaches, why not...

    Diba BijariSeptember 28, 2017
  • Apps to Reward You for Exercising

    Sometimes, it can be very difficult to get yourself motivated to exercise, even if you keep telling yourself that you need...

    Catherine HorneSeptember 26, 2017
  • Italian Ghost Town to Artistic Haven

    There is a small village in Italy that has survived major devastations, has been completely revived, and has almost been completely...

    Miranda FebusSeptember 22, 2017

Copyright © 2016 New York Minute Magazine